This goes double for when they’re on the bus, the subway or the train.A woman reading or listening to her headphones is making a determined effort to shut the world out until it’s time for her to get off at her stop.All anyone on the Muni, the e L, the Yamanote line, the Underground, or any other form of mass transit wants to do is get through their commute with as minimal irritation as possible. In fact, for many women, mass transit is less of a convenient and economical way of getting from place to place and more of a gauntlet of horror, frustration and harassment that they must run on a daily basis… Almost every woman who’s ever had to take the bus or the subway or the train has had an experience of being harassed – ranging from guys who see nothing wrong with demanding a response from women who clearly want to be left alone to the incredibly dangerous.
well, now she can expect to see him make the first move; the last thing you want to do is cause the woman of your dreams to associate you with other mass transit creepers.
Also: remember what I said about the “do not disturb” signs?
Similarly, she may use obstacles – especially clothes or accessories like a hoodies or sunglasses – as a physical barriers to eye-contact.
Wearing headphones or earbuds are another universal “do not disturb” sign; in fact, many people will wear earbuds without actually listening to music want to know what she’s listening to.
One of the keys to getting better at interacting with women is to understand the differences in how men and women are taught to communicate.
Women are taught to be indirect when communicating their desires and interests – especially when it comes to interacting with men – and are more likely to rely on non-verbal communication.
One of the keys to social calibration is understanding the cues and context that tell you when a woman is open to being approached and when she isn’t.
Now an obvious caveat: people are people and everyone sets their boundaries where they see fit.
but trying when it comes to the age-old question of “Does she “Flirting For Dollars”.