” I think about bringing Hazy home from the hospital. She came a month early and was so fragile yet so fierce.
When I wasn’t trying to fatten her up or lull her to sleep under the warm October sun, I’d just gaze at my baby… Those first few months of her life were powerful and miraculous — as was the entire road toward motherhood.
When dating a single dad, it’s important to acknowledge that the mother exists.
Let me just start off by saying this post isn’t going to be filled with earth shattering paradigm shifting ideas. What this blog IS going to be is stating the obvious, BUT it's going to be stating the obvious and backing it up with statistical data. I’m starting something new and I’m not sure if this is the best idea I’ve ever, or possible the worst idea I’ve ever had. Like they stopped responding to your text messages and that’s how you “ended it”?
Here’s the punch line, here’s the question: Has anyone you’ve ever dated, just kind of disappeared?
Baby to dating to Daddy, everything came out of order.
Last week, I was honored to have been selected to speak at the Ignite San Diego event. GREAT question, and honestly, I had never even heard of these types of events before, but someone on twitter suggested I apply to present, so I looked more into it. So here’s the thing, Valentine’s Day is rapidly approaching at the inevitable speed of one second per second, with every second that passes by. Okay, I’m just going to admit it, and come out and say it.
was over Bloody Marys and fried potatoes at Vinegar Hill House in Brooklyn. We bonded about our New England roots, and delighted in throwback slang, like ‘wicked’ and ‘grinder.’ I insisted he take the leftovers home. Alas, transitioning into a more conventional family structure was about to be one of the hardest decisions of my life. I guess I didn’t belong in that Facebook group anymore. What would it really mean if she started to call him Daddy?
He walked me to my small DUMBO loft, which sat on a noisy highway. Yes, of course.” The truth is, even if we didn’t hang again, even if I never heard from him again, even if I ghosted him immediately, that lovely mid-morning date with a handsome, interesting guy was good enough for me. and I originally met on Tinder, where I was open about the fact that I’d had a baby via sperm donor. I knew we’d be together for a long time, but relationships are always risky. and private moments with Hazel and all my female intuition. Like everything else in our relationship, Hazel calling S. During my first months as a single mom, sometimes I’d wish for a partner to delight in her gloriousness with.
Before we said goodbye, he asked if I wanted to hang out again… A brief flirtation and fiery cocktail was all I really desired. He was not the first, nor the last, guy who embraced that not-so-insignificant detail. Things get real, fast, when you’re dating with a baby. I sought advice on a popular Single Mom by Choice Facebook group that had always been helpful in the past. When it came to raising my daughter, I could make whatever choices I wanted. The hilarious, life-affirming things babies do can be so heartwarming and surreal that it occasionally felt counterintuitive to experience those happy-tear moments in isolation.
During my pregnancy, the only man I craved was Justin of the Peanut Butter Cup, but when I finally recovered from my C-section, got into a breastfeeding groove, and felt quasi-human again, I had decided to get back on the market. First of all, my parents and sister helped me so much. I felt extremely liberated by my decision to become a ‘Single Mother by Choice.’ It was (and still is) a great pleasure to talk to new people about the journey. Before we even reached the three-month mark, we survived chronic carsickness, Lyme disease, daily sleep-deprivation and a devastating professional heartbreak (mine). will tell you — so it’s no big surprise that Hazel is a chatterbox. “My daughter started calling my boyfriend ‘Daddy.’ I feel comfortable with it. Was I prepared to release my grip on that autonomy? Now that she’s two, I’m tested more physically than emotionally.
It’s important for you to enjoy the fact that his children are not yours.