I remember having the same mindset myself at that age. Granted, no one hopes for this outcome and we have these peripheral ideas about needing time with a person to test the relationship, but in the end of the day, serial relationships do more harm than good.
I've dated countless women and it has always amazed me how little they know about men. But the ridiculousness of my situation was embarrassingly obvious in the very instant he asked the question.
If nothing else, this blog is an outlet for voicing my astonishment at the typical female's ignorance of the male mindset. I knew that - in light of my certainty - my relationship with her was pointless.
"There's no mistaking what someone means when they say 'platonic'" Goldberg said.
"But if you use the word 'friends' there's room for interpretation." Like, for instance, friends with benefits.
How To Break Up By Text plays at the People's Improv Theatre in New York City (their next show is May 12 and it's seriously worth the $15 ticket.)Through reading how people (mostly men) break up with their girlfriends/partners/casual dating friends over text, Jamula and Goldberg have learned exactly what NOT to do.
For the most part, breaking up over text at all is a bad idea.
If you've had one Tinder date, or even a few, but the relationship hasn't gone anywhere (ie, you haven't had sex, and there are no expectations for a relationship to happen) then Jamula and Goldberg feel like it's safe to send a text."Hey Amanda!
It has been so nice getting to know you, and I've really loved learning all about your passion for space and astronomy (positive and specific).
Know what you want from him, and make sure he is on the same page. But if you don't know what you want or he doesn't share your motivations, you risk wasting your most eligible years, sustaining emotional damage, and giving away a piece of yourself that you then can't offer to the man you do stay with.
------------------------------------- If you liked this post, you'll definitely like my book, Beyond the Breakup.
However, I'm just not feeling any chemistry (aka "spark") and I think we'd be better if we kept the relationship platonic (dropping the "p" bomb)."While it may seem awkward to use the word "platonic," (because who ever does?