Putting a coat on can sometimes be tricky – especially for women who seem to like to wear those teeny, tiny ones that their arms barely fit into. Save her the embarrassment and the time and help her put it on. If you don’t take her home, then ask her to, at the very least, text you when she gets home safe. I’m sure there are plenty of arbitrary rules that you believe you need to follow when it comes to following up after a date. If you like her and she likes you, then she won’t mind you contacting her the next day and telling her that you had a great time.
Yes, she can hold her own doors – she has arms and hands. When you pocket your i Phone, you show that the most important thing that deserves your attention is across the table. If you really do love her, then give her the things that she secretly wants. A simple “Your new haircut looks nice” or “Congratulations on your new job, my girlfriend told me the good news” demonstrates the kind of attention and kindness that few men show. It’s not about how much money you spend; it’s about the effort you put in.
It’s really pretty simple, and something you shouldn’t have to think twice about. Don’t send a text message from your car saying “here.” By walking to her door a man shows a little effort—we’re talking 30 seconds here—and a lot of respect. A simple gesture that acts as a metaphorical barrier between her and danger/being splashed by a car driving through a puddle. Attending and watching dates where phones illuminate the table tops more than candles it totally f*cked. If you can afford to spend money on your woman, then spend money on her. Because it’s one of the best investments you can make.
“This will let her know you are thinking about her,” says King. Well then, you can start by letting her walk all over your stuff.
Chances are, though, there are a bunch of other ways to avoid your date soil- ing her shoes.
But which actions are still considered gentlemanlike?
Do you really need to lay your jacket down over a puddle so she doesn’t get her Manolos wet?
If your date happens to get up from her seat a few times, your constant up and down may seem awkward and make her feel strange.
“The way we socialize today is different and less ritualized than it used to be,” says Dean.
The benefits of familiarizing yourself with the dos and don’ts of chivalry extend beyond showcasing your gentlemanly demeanor; it’s a confidence booster, too.
“It avoids a lot of the ‘should I’ or ‘shouldn’t I’ questions,” says Deborah King, president of Final Touch Finishing School, allowing you to focus more on your date.
“But you should be present when or a few minutes before the date is supposed to start.” If you know you’ll be running late, give her a heads-up before the meeting time.