There are a lot of reasons I feel this way, of course, and I want other parents to know that divorce isn’t always the end of a child’s happiness, or the promise that your child will turn out angry and traumatized later in life.
Most teens are cynical and standoffish to new boyfriends so you have to expect hostility initially.
Don’t go turning on the young man’s Madden game and professing your “skills” in hopes that the video game will bond you to him.
Women you gotta be smarter than this, go back to his place, keep your kids out of it, and leave the little ones with a babysitter.
So go forth, date, have fun and remember when children are concerned you have to give respect in order to earn respect.
You have to cater to both on some level, especially if the child is a female herself.
Engage the child in conversation when he/she’s around but make it natural conversation, not forced conversation.
Take it slow and be yourself, help out when you can, or when you’re asked, and the number one thing is to be good to their mom.
Being a boyfriend who openly bombs on mom in front of the kids or being that guy breaking mom’s heart will forever lock you into asshole mode in their minds and you will never get over it.
When I was 10 years old and my dad told me he was divorcing my mom, I don’t think I reacted like I was expected to, with heartbreak and tears; instead, I felt calm.
I did cry a bit, but I knew the divorce had been a long time coming.
Kids can be great bonuses to meeting someone new and they can also be nightmares just as easily.