I am a student attending college, I am 18 and I am in love with my lecturer. The only thing I can't seem to wrap my head around is the fact that this article says that teachers have inappropriate feelings for their students too.
He may not love me back, but that is not the point. I feel that your 'short bliber blabber' was completely inappropriate and disrespectful to people in my situation, and may even be for some teachers in a situation where they have fallen for their students. Of course, it's almost expected of students, but teachers? Most that are arrested have some sort of mental illness. Well, I'm a teacher and I have feelings for one of my students.
Every time I passed his class, I would stare through the window, hoping to get a glimpse of his face.
Co-workers fall in love, and yes its taboo, but I don't think its intentional. My view is, it's normal to fall for people, however, they shouldnt be acted on in school. :( Based on what you narrated, chances are big that your professor also is romantically attracted to you.
If the feelings are genuine keep it to a minimum and wait until they've finished their school career. the way we look to each other, the way we adjust our breaktime just to see each other in the canteen. 7 months of just looking and looking to each other, smilling with no reasons.until on the 8th month which when i let him felt that i am upset ( because of one situation i encountered with him). one day, i get a simple response (because he never gave any response before) when i sent him a dish that we cooked (I am a HRM student), he told to my classmate, tell her that the food is really great and delicious! the second is, when my classmates asked him if he has a girlfriend and he answered no but he like someone ( i'm just around, when they were talking. However, because he is of 'teacher' position, and he places importance on acting and thinking right (ethically) as a teacher towards students, that's why he didn't respond to your letter or didn't tell you he likes you.
I don't know how one cannot "fall in love" with people they see, working with, have depend on you or you depend on, and have to get to know on a personal level.
You're both in structured circumstances and navigating them can be difficult so finding support (re: a student who gets what or how you teach) is like finding a mate that "gets you". I just want to be around him, and I'm freaking out because he is leaving. I believe that its only natural for people to be attracted or drawn to one another.
Admiring someone is normal and wanting them around it normal. I am ashamed of how much I will miss talking to him. I find myself thinking of ways to run into him at his next job. We are all human and whilst it isn't right for teachers and students to act upon feelings in a physical way, i feel it is okay for them to be close and if the feelings are mutual, carry them out and be friends.
And vulnerability can have many ways of manifesting itself, sexual attraction is only one. This is a really big thing i feel for senior students, who are almost adults who have this problem.As parent-figures, teachers often end up similarly confused, scared, and thinking, “I shouldn’t be having these feelings. If only the taboo on talking about these things hadn’t forced their relationship to remain secret!Love is made from the heart; and you can not help with who you fall in love with.Of course teachers are in positions of trusted authority and of course they’ll sometimes be the objects of student fantasy. Indeed, it can happen from time to time in any profession where the relationship between people is the key to getting the job done.They must never abuse that authority or compromise their delicate role in the lives of young people. What I am challenging is the implication that good, responsible teachers won’t have feelings for their students which will sometimes be sexual. It doesn’t mean that these feelings of attraction will necessarily be acted upon: there are important boundaries which mustn’t be crossed.Their daughters, unable to attract the benign admiration of their fathers, are obliged to look for it elsewhere, often with disastrous consequences, and all because their fathers were afraid to acknowledge the beauty (including the sexual beauty) of their daughters because it felt too unsafe, weird, shameful, paedophilic.