I had a particularly memorable date with an architect from Detroit who was in town for an event. Ironically, I made several good male friends in my quest for true love! I hate the idea of meeting people in loud bars, but I did try speed dating, though it always felt like I was conducting weird, one-sided interviews.We chatted in a bar until it closed, then continued the conversation in his hotel room until the wee hours. As for those who didn’t work out at all, there was an arrogant and self-absorbed Kiwi who went on about his ex, was dismissive about my job in package design, and tried to psychoanalyse me based on my dating experiences. Friends respected me too much to set me up with someone, so I signed up with a local dating agency – but it couldn’t find me any matches!At 1.63m, with short hair and a hint of chubbiness, I definitely did not fit the bill.
I wanted someone with a global mindset, preferably an American-born Chinese (ABC) who should not be more than five years older.
He had to have a decent education, with at least a diploma.
I’m pretty confident, so I was comfortable with posting a selfie and personal profile explaining who I was and what I was looking for.
I can be picky, and having studied abroad, I saw myself as independent and well-travelled.
After working and studying in London for three and a half years, I returned to Singapore in 1998, aged 25. I had a limited social life back in the UK – my colleagues were attached or married, and my Asian friends had gone home to their respective countries – so I spent many weekends by myself. Online dating was coming into fashion, and I was excited about giving this new avenue a shot.
A friend introduced me to dating site Asia Friendfinder, which connects Asian singles online for US a month.I didn’t mind taking the initiative to message guys I was interested in, asking about their hobbies or profiles. When guys messaged me, I’d only respond to those who asked about my interests – travelling, reading and cooking.I usually ignored the ones who started with ‘Hi, you’re really pretty. ’ because they sounded generic and began with too little effort!After connecting on the site, we’d usually continue chatting on other platforms such as ICQ (an instant- messaging service) before arranging to meet up – I met about 80 per cent of those I talked to.First dates usually involved getting to know each other over a meal.He was an expat here, three years younger, intelligent, into art, books and animals, and we shared great banter.