According to a survey by dating website Elite Singles, 20-something men actually have a preference for older women three to six years older than themselves.
The biological theory has always been men prefer younger women because they are likely to bear more children, while women prefer older men because they offer resources and stability.
To call these women “cougars” has a predatory connotation that is not accurate, considering these younger men are just as eager as the women to initiate the age-gap romance.
These women are not mother substitutes either who are “robbing the cradle,” but instead are an example of the modern day woman who knows what she wants and goes after it.
Which means it can sometimes be tough to find things in common with other people who, well, aren’t that way, including potential homecoming dates.
So it’s totally fine to moon over people who are older than you!
This affirms the stereotype that younger women do seek older men because they tend to be emotionally mature, have more financial freedom, and have an established career that lets them devote more time to a relationship and fatherhood.
Shifting back to the older woman-younger man relationship dynamic, it has garnered a collective gasp from society.
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
First, being attracted to older guys is completely and totally normal.
But evolving gender roles in modern society have led to more equality between the sexes, challenging this antiquated notion for men.
Sam Owen, Elites Singles Partner psychologist, believes "young men nowadays probably also recognize that older women are adept at diligently juggling so many responsibilities (career, children, housekeeping, fitness, finances, socializing), which makes them intriguing and attractive and a more secure option."The dating website analyzed the upper and lower age search limits for more than 450,000 of its members to reveal the age of a man and a woman’s perfect partner.
Looking back at that relationship now, seven years later, there are so many things I wish someone had told me before I decided to become the Lolita to this guy’s Humbert².