I dont want to push her away with ultimatums and demands, as she will be 18 soon; she could just go do whatever she wants anyway, then.
Conversely, I dont want to treat the situation too lightly. You can piss her off for the next six months trying to prevent something she will do anyways, or you can realize there is nothing much you can do, there is not that much of an age difference and she's not a little kid anymore.
Trust your daughter's opionions, but talk to her to make sure she knows you're there for her and that she needs to should stay strong. I'd try to find out what this guy's other friends are like. Ditto on I don't think that anything you do or say will change her mind toward him, but will drive her away from you.
You want to make sure that her relationship with him doesn't derail her future college plans.
Or, hell, maybe I'm just overreacting about the whole thing. Im planning a long talk with her later tonight, then talking to her dad and then figuring out where we all go from there. I guess you could call the cops and ruin his life for doing something entirely normal.
I am no expert, but I taught in a public alternative high school (13 to 18 year-olds) for several years and feel that I got to understand the mindset of teens (at least a certain population of them) and their priorities pretty well, and I would guess that the chances that they are not already sexually active are about the same odds that Pres.
You want to make sure it's easy for her to brake up with him later.
Making this into too big of a deal will make that harder, because then breaking up will seem like a big dramatic thing that she doesn't want to go through.
I've been a lurker here for some time, and I've seen some great advice given out. I found out that my 17 (18 in 6 months) year old daughter is dating a 25 year old guy that she had previously only been friends with, and Im not sure how to handle this.
First off, my Daughter is a smart, funny, mature, independent girl with a lot of friends and who does very well in school, and is preparing for college next year. She broke up with her last boyfriend (who was her age) because he always had drama going on around him, and unlike a lot of teenagers I know, she hates drama. ) Daughter met him some months ago when her friend got her uncle (The Guy) to drive them to the mall.
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