Being a little hard to get certainly couldn’t hurt – instead, Lorraine appeared desperate?
Was this guy leading her on and then dropped the bombshell that he was dating someone? -Kristy As you know, reasonable people can agree to disagree.
The only thing that guy is guilty of is being HONEST.
I find this man incredibly shallow and disrespectful. Will he also do this to Lorraine (have a gal on the sidelines so to speak) in case Lorraine doesn’t work out to HIS expectations? With the comment he made “if things don’t work out, I will call you” would have most women thinking what a jerk!
Conveniently, Lorraine was available-wonder how much respect for her is going on?
You may feel comfortable kissing or holding hands but not want to go any further. Deciding whether you want to have sex or when you should is a decision you should make when it feels right for YOU.
In a healthy relationship, your partner respects your decisions, even if they don’t like them.
No, the problem is that you EXPECT anything different. I am NOT telling you to accept all their bad behavior. Well, 2 weeks or so after that conversation, he phoned me again, and told me that things didn’t work out with that other lady and asked me out. I rarely feel as comfortable on a first date as I did with him, like we really “clicked”. And she has a really great chance of going on a second date with a man about whom she’s quite excited.
As a result, you are continually derailed each time another guy fails to meet expectations. I am NOT suggesting that you’re wrong to want guys to act with integrity. And, finally, “I should just give up on dating.” A man could draw all those conclusions, but they would be patently false. I agreed to a date (although I did kind of feel like an alternate, or runner up to his first choice). I know it’s too soon to say, since I know all too well that a great first date so often means not all that much. Ask yourself if you’d react the exact same way that Lorraine did. He said it was my story about going to Dodger Stadium w/my Dad and seeing Sandy Koufax pitch a perfect game.But what Kristy fails to realize is that, if she were Lorraine, her pride would have prevented her from going on a lovely date with a man who did absolutely NOTHING wrong.His biggest crime, apparently, was that he met another woman first and was honest enough to – gasp!If you haven’t already registered for this free weekly advice, please click here: Below is a copy of the newsletter that got emailed to thousands of women just this morning.I got a flurry of emails in response to it and would love to hear your feedback. Maybe you met in real life and flirted for two straight hours.All I AM saying is that based on your own experience, a high percentage of men disappoint. After all, you ever have a good date with a guy but not feel strongly enough to see him again? THIS is what I see over and over and over again Your solution is not to change men. Your solution is to understand that rejection and failure happens to EVERYONE. Nonetheless, we went out for drinks and dinner tonight. So although we spent a long time getting to know one another and seemed to have mutual attraction, and rather powerful chemistry (ok, we kissed! But in this case, I would be REALLY surprised if we didn’t go out again. What I love about this email is how it illustrates Lorraine’s growth as a single woman in the dating world. Ask yourself if you’d be as positive, patient, forgiving and confident as she was. He’s not into sports at all, it was that he liked THE STORY.