Introduction Infidelity, contrary to what most people assume, is neither rare nor exclusively male behavior nor is it certain to end the marriage.
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This cycle works to keep partners in abusive relationships by controlling them.
Partners hope that abusers do not mean to harm them and will change.
Secrecy, fear, lack of opportunity, and low self-esteem all combine to make leaving an abusive partner extremely difficult.
Leaving may also be difficult because abusers often escalate violence in order to keep their partners in the relationship.
The last phase is often referred to as the honeymoon period because abusers are calm, loving and apologize for their actions, promising their partners that "it will never happen again." Partners often feel guilty about possibly leaving the abuser. Over time, the tension-building and honeymoon stages get shorter and the battering increases.
This pattern results in battering incidents that become increasingly longer and more severe.
In this example, extramarital sexual relationships are neither associated with betrayal or unfaithfulness nor do they involve deceit and secrecy.
During their professional careers, most marriage and couples psychotherapists have dealt with marital crises brought about by affairs.
This has made it very difficult to comply with the Western-Judeo-Christian proscription.
Correspondingly, many movies have dealt with affairs, most notably, Long before our modern era, infidelity was a recurrent element in literature and art. The Ten Commandments devotes a specific commandment to it. Similarly, many anthropologists have repeatedly claimed that Homo sapiens throughout its evolution, like most animals, has not been naturally monogamous.
The literature about affairs has struggled to differentiate between platonic friendships and emotional affairs.