Ok, so I know many of the people reading this are going to judge me and HATE me and I'm sorry for offending you, but I am only on here to look for guidance and advice.I am a 40 year-old married white male who has been married to my wife for 12 years (together for 16) and have always been faithful to her but circumstances have forced me to look for a woman on the side. When I first met my wife, she had a voracious appetite for sex and since my drive was also strong we had an amazing sex life right from the beginning of our relationship.
I also make sure that I share equally with the household chores and cleaning.
I am still very much physically attracted to my wife and I tell her that I think she's beautiful and sexy quite frequently.
But in spite of all these efforts, when I try to initiate sex, my wife participates through the foreplay and then tells me that she just doesn't feel like having sex or is too tired.
She still enjoys kissing and receiving massages from me but that's as far as it goes.
So the only solution I have been able to come up with is having a secret affair with either a married woman in a similar situation or a single woman who is open-minded and mature enough to be "the other woman".
Does anyone on here know where I should look to find a woman who would be open to dating a married man like myself?
If you want a serious relationship and prefer to date people you may already kind of know, give CMB a try. Tinder, the dating app that doesn’t really get the whole "dating" part quite right.
Tinder is basically , for short term relationships, depending on who you ask.
I'm very honest and open with my communication with her and I've told her many, many times how the loss of her sex drive has made me feel.
My wife has talked to her doctor about this problem and has tried many different anti-depressant medicines but none of them have helped and several of them have even made the problem worse.
My wife still tells me she finds me physically attractive and I exercise regularly to keep fit and stay attractive to her so I know that my appearance isn't the issue.