He was a bartender at a restaurant I used to frequent and after several flirty exchanges, he finally asked for my number.On the night of our first date, I had to delay our meeting time by a few hours because I forgot I was supposed to be having dinner with some friends.
When a guy has you and gets to keep you without really putting in much effort, your stock inevitably goes down in his mind.
At this point, you may notice that he starts pulling away until he eventually pulls a swift Houdini on you, vanishing into the abyss without even uttering “abracadabra” to give you some warning!
MORE: A Guy’s Take on Neediness Now it is worth noting that a lot of women want to know how to make a guy chase them because they want him to pursue her and commit.
If you want to know exactly what makes a man commit and how to make him commit to you (and only you), then take a look at this article here: MORE: 4 Ways To Make Him Commit and Want Only You I met this guy years ago, let’s call him Craig.
So yes you want men to pursue you, and if you are confident this will naturally happen, but you don’t want to intentionally get him to chase you because this is just neediness all dressed up.
When you are truly confident and independent, he won’t take you for granted, he won’t vanish for days at a time, he won’t tell you he “doesn’t want a relationship” and continue treating you as girlfriend anyway – instead, he will lock it down because he’ll be too scared someone else will snatch you up if he doesn’t!
Since Craig and I lived somewhat of a distance away (maybe about 40 minutes) I went out of my way to see him when it was convenient for him.
There were forces working against us and I didn’t want to make things worse by being unaccommodating.
When I eventually met up with Craig at the bar, the first thing he said after our friendly hellos and my apology for changing things around last minute was: “I like that you didn’t cancel on your friends.
It shows a lot about you and made me even more excited to see you.” I was off to a great start, but that didn’t last.
While guys enjoy the pursuit, they hate it when you act in a way that is deliberately trying to get them to chase you. And to be clear, that is not what I’m talking about here.